Anger Is A Vicious Cycle
The angrier you get, the worse you play. The worse you play, the angrier you get.
See how counterproductive that is?
Yeah, just like many others, I spent years in that vicious cycle.
Another child gets angry over video games.
But, that’s what pressure does to people and in my case it was video games. Since gaming is a fine motor sport, if you get filled with emotion you can lose your fine motor skill.
Imagine being chased by a bear, then trying to thread a needle.
That’s what raging at video games is! Being pumped with adrenaline because of the amount of pressure you put on yourself just sets you back. Every time I got angry I could feel the loss of control on my mouse. Nothing gets achieved in this way.
Pressure to perform and compete can be detrimental if it isn’t kept in check.
A lot of top athletes, like the great Kobe Bryant, have an incredible competitive drive. But, they also understand how to stay in the present moment. Here’s a quote from Kobe that explains exactly this:
“When you get in that zone, it’s just a supreme confidence… Things just slow down. You really do not try to focus on what’s going on, because you can lose it in a second. You have to really try to stay in the present and not let anything break that rhythm.”
In the present moment anger doesn’t exist, fear doesn’t exist, pressure doesn’t exist. This is where the high performance athletes thrive. Once I learned this I tried to get into this state of presence every game.
It’s not easy.
After learning this, I also learnt that mindful presence can be trained with meditation. Meditation is more of a tool rather than a spiritual practice, you can use it for whatever you want. Meditation forces you to continuously return to the present moment every time a distraction pops up in your mind. In terms of the game this is every time anger would pop up.
Then I realized.
All you have to do to avoid anger is to remain in the present moment.